Unplanned Pregnancy

FAQs

 

What is adoption?

Adoption is the voluntary consent for your child to be placed in another family for life. All the responsibility and rights associated with parenthood are transferred from you to the adoptive parents you choose for your child.

 

Is adoption right for me and my baby?

Only you can determine what is best for you and your child. As you consider all of your options, you may find that your hopes and dreams for your child include things that you cannot provide. For example, the baby’s father may not want to be a part of raising your child, yet you want your baby to have both a mother and a father. In a situation like this and other similar situations, adoption may be the right choice. Considering what you want for both you and your baby will help you down the path of choosing what is best for both of you.

 

How can Adoption California help me?

Adoption California believes in guiding birth mothers through the adoption process in a way that is comfortable and custom-fit for each birth mother. We know there is no “one-size-fits-all” adoption, so we provide experienced professionals to assist you every step of the way. Additionally, we connect you with external resources to support you emotionally and financially.

In California, a birth parent placing with an adoptive family is entitled to her own attorney paid for by the adoptive parents. Many birth parents may not be aware of this right until late in the process. We will not pressure you to choose one of our adoptive family clients. You can contact us  if you want a legal representative that will represent you and give you a voice in the process.


How much will it cost me to place my child for adoption?

Placing your child for adoption doesn’t cost you anything. In fact, there is financial assistance available to help you through your pregnancy. This assistance will help with medical costs, legal fees, and even living expenses like rent, utilities, and maternity clothes.

 

What is it like to place a child for adoption?

Placing a child for adoption is a unique experience. In fact, no two adoptions are exactly alike. But there is one common element: Love. When you place your child for adoption, you may choose not only the qualities you want in your child’s parents, but you get to choose the parents themselves. When you have identified a family you think might be a good fit for your child, you will be able to communicate with the parents, deciding on how open you want the adoption to be and growing together in your mutual love for your child.

 

What happens after placement?

After your child has been placed into his/her adoptive family, you may still be a part of their lives. Before placement, you and the adoptive parents decide together on the degree of contact you will have with each other. There may be an agreement for regular visits and you may be able to see your child soon after placement. It may be decided that it’s best for you and for your baby to have a longer separation that might help in your healing. It will be discussions between you and your child’s adoptive parents that determine your future interaction. And because you can rest assured that your child is now safe with his/her adoptive family, you will be able to move forward with your personal life .

 

What is open adoption (and how do I prepare for a successful one)?

Open adoption is a type of adoption wherein the birth parent(s) and the adoptive parent(s) share information and have contact with each other to varying degrees. Some open adoptions include regular contact between the birth mother and the child. Others are more informational, with scattered contact throughout the child’s life. The degree of openness is decided between the birth mother and the adoptive parents before the child is born. Having clear, honest and open communication about expectations of openness will result in a successful open adoption.

 

How do I find the right family for my baby?

Choosing a family for your child is a huge responsibility. It requires some planning, searching, and following your feelings. As you imagine the family life you would like your child to have, take note of specific details. This will help you to narrow your search as you are shown profiles of hopeful adoptive parents. You will be given profiles of those who fit your criteria. As you look at their pictures and read about them, different things will stand out for you. Pay attention to the feelings you have as you search. There will be one adoptive family that you will not forget. They will play on your mind and you’ll feel peace as you think about them. This is the right family for your baby!

 

What about the birth father?

Birth fathers are welcome and invited to be a part of the adoption process. We know there are loving, dedicated birth fathers who want the best for their children just as birth mothers do. For birth fathers who participate in the adoption process, they are given the opportunity to look through profiles and search for the right family, just as the birth mother does. They are invited to participate in the open adoption that is determined by all involved in your adoption situation. The birth father will need to sign adoption consent forms, just as the birth mother does. If the birth father is absent and doesn’t want to be a part of things, we can still move forward with your wishes.

 

This content is for informational purposes only, should not be considered or relied upon as legal advice, and is not intended to create an attorney-client relationship.